Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Killdeer Parenting

I recognized the two immature birds as Killdeer Plovers. I moved toward them to get a closer look, their parents saw me as a threat and began performing the "broken wing" maneuver. They flew a short distance, called out loudly, fell on the ground and began to flash their wings sideways in an attempt to entice me, the supposed predator, away from their babies. Even if I had caught one of the baby birds, the Killdeers would not have attacked me. They would simply have continued to attempt to distract.

Some people parent the same way. They never really protect, they only distract. Those parents use the TV, computer, school, community services, and even the church as a distraction. Church leaders often hear it this way, "We need to do something at church to keep our kids off the street."

Children do not need Killdeer parents. They need real parents who protect them by building parenting relationships with them; i.e., loving parents who are more concerned about their child's best than they are with being their child's friend. God has assigned the rearing of the child to its parents; not to the school, the church, or the village. Parenting is the hardest job anyone could ever do, but the good news is that it is temporary. It lasts only to the child's adulthood.


Randy Walsworth said...

Great analogy! Why does the Killdeer parent this way? Maybe because this is the only way it knows. This reminded me of something I heard by Richard Ross about a year ago on the importance of parents discipling teenagers referencing Deuteronomy 6:6&7. Here's the link to it.